To create positivity within it’s mandatory to gather your focus on yourself, so you could isolate the negative anomalies. Believing in this principle, I do believe in minding my own business and focusing on my own life. However, when one lives in a shared society it’s almost unavoidable to observe certain social abnormalities and shortcomings. Even though it doesn’t replace the positiveness inside, it does create certain ripples in one’s temperament, however temporarily, but one becomes seriously exposed to negative emotional radiation, and if exposure is continuous, it could pose jeopardy for the mindset. Not mega issues, but day-to-day mundane anomalies leave you feeling frustrated at times. Let me list a few here, and I am sure most readers be able to relate to a similar experience.
I often see people standing at the bus stop or walking through a high street, or just being in the public domain, and spitting. Disgusting habit and I don’t feel guilty to grimace. If there is a medical reason, then we’ve murdered enough trees to make tissues out of them; at least let their sacrifice be worth it. Such behaviour often manifests out of a lack of self-awareness and total disregard for others.
- Coughing without covering the mouth with a hand, is another un-sociable behaviour. Especially after Covid-19 invaded the world and locked us in our own homes, I would have expected greater realisation about the effects of our actions. But I forget the human race can be both, short-sighted and selfish. Our history proves, alas!
- Whether in a pub, public place, or even shockingly in restaurants, it’s cringeworthy to see at least one ‘lady’ who would not wash her hands after doing business in the washroom. It’s called ‘wash’ room for a reason, for God’s sake! Since I am a woman I can only talk about my own gender, but doubt the story is much different in the men’s world. Exceptions, hopefully, they might be but is still very unpleasant to witness.
- I love the invention of earphones. But some people still find a way to raid your ears! Mobile phones are a great asset if we know when, how, and how much to use them. However, you involuntarily learn a lot about other unrelated people in who you might not be interested even remotely. I am sure whoever uses any means of public transport has experienced this at least sometimes.
- Have you heard someone snot, and continue to do so, totally oblivious to the fact that he/she is making someone around feel nauseous? I call it impolite ad inconsiderate, to say the least. Tissues again, please.
- Starers! God, what’s their problem? Sometimes I feel some of these wide-eyed human beings don’t mean to be rude- I accept it, BUT, it’s a lack of self-awareness.
In the end, I would stress on the importance of ‘Taking responsibility for own actions’, ‘ Growing Self-awareness’, ‘Having consideration for others around’, and basically- learn manners to be social beings. All these small good behaviours corroborate to appreciate inclusiveness and build a polite individual. If being considerate towards others isn’t an essential ingredient for developing positivity, then what is?
3 thoughts on “Spills from life: Sometimes it’s the small things that matter big”
You are right. We can’t control others, only ourselves. Covid in particular brought us to and over the brink of patience with people. Wearing a mask improperly or not at all…coughing into your hand, instead of into a tissue or elbow (Dracula cough)…running the stairs (repetitive exercise) where it is prohibited. We have all become impatient and judgmental, a hard trait to break. As one who still wears a mask in crowded public settings, I now feel what some may have felt when they did not wear a mask during Covid’s worst times. I get the look, but nobody has yet dared say anything…yet. Stay well. Allan
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Ha! I agree with many of these, especially talking on speaker on your cellphone in public.
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Absolutely. If we could respect one another’s personal space more, this world could be so much more peaceful. I have a lot of respect for those who do. Thank you for your kind comment. 🙏❤
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