Letters, texts, emails… so much unwanted correspondence that one can do without. You receive a letter from the bank that you’re behind with loan installments. Reason? You borrowed above your capacity to pay back. Result? You’re stressed. But then credit card companies lure you through higher credit limits. Reason? You are too weak against materialistic temptation. Result? You get on the hamster’s wheel of exhaustion. Brochures invade the letterbox with all non-productive offers- lawn mower when you don’t even have a lawn to mow, best houses on sale listed by estate agents, when you’re struggling to pay the current mortgage, etc., etc. Reason? You are addicted to consumerism. Result? You are frustrated. You receive emojis in the name of communication from a loved one. Reason? Everyone is busy chasing their own tail and have no time for anyone else. Result? Breakdown of relationships. There’s a reason why mail is also called junk. Result? We feel angry at most correspondence which constantly reminds us about what we lack; there’s mostly a lack of satisfaction, like when we eat a lot of something we don’t actually find tasty, and consequently, still feel hungry mentally, even though the stomach might be full. We blame the food or we blame the chef. Just like when we get frustrating correspondence we blame ‘luck’, or God mostly, for being partial to others. But the real reason for our unhappiness is ourselves: through the choices we make in life. Live within the means is not only a healthy discipline in life but also teaches us to find true happiness, which is not in buying more and bigger by taking out loans, or obsessively connecting with the faceless world on social media with no time left to speak to the loved ones properly, except to choose a pre-generated e-card and one thumb sends the generic wishes to all the friends and family at once. Real fulfillment is in organic happiness, which generates from the heart. When you have no debt, there is no stress. When you tame your choice, you get your priorities right. If you’ve taken a wrong turn, accept responsibility, and you’ll soon figure out the right way. Don’t blame the postman for the correspondence he’s dropping through your mailbox, as ‘you’ are attracting your own thoughts. Delete the unwanted messages in your mind, shred the non-productive letters your impulses keep writing, and make space for the new messages bearing good news. Tweak your thoughts, and change your life. This is true prayer, true worship. May God send happy correspondence to you this Christmas and beyond. Amen.
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My husband asked me about my resolution for this year and I hesitated to answer. Do you know why? Because I thought to myself, ‘ resolution is just words unless I’d add action to it’. We all can relate to a question that our parents, uncles, aunties, and almost all adults might have asked when we were children, ‘What do you want to become when you grow up?’ I remember it created so much confusion in my little mind instantly because there were so many buzz words that my parents and teachers had injected into my brain- ‘Doctor’, ‘Engineer’, ‘Pilot’ and ‘Accountant’…I think my memory couldn’t go past these few of the most important occupations in society. But in reality, I became a teacher in school, then a trainer for adults in known Airline, then a Manager in the same company, Semi-professional dancer and Choreographer till university days, Editor of a Youth Magazine, a Blogger, an Author, a Wife, and a Mother …… I became all but what I was told by my adults. I am glad I became all I wanted to be instead of what I was told to. This is also very important for maintaining a positive mindset. Now before a question scratches someone’s brain to ask me, ‘What if I had failed at everything I could become? Would I then regret why I didn’t try harder to become what Mummy or Daddy or teacher insisted ?’ My answer to that would be, ‘If I failed in what I wanted to be, it would be for two reasons only- either I was barking up the wrong tree or didn’t try hard enough.’ That settled, now I would say that instead of making a New Year Resolution, make a lifetime resolution of doing what you could and then invest all your energy and effort into achieving your own best self. This might not be suitable to others’ expectations of you but your mirror would show you dignity and self-pride each and every time you look at yourself. Show the World what ‘you’ could do! If they don’t like it, they could foxtrot oscar! This is real confidence ( not over-confidence, which is like thinking of walking on water….and we all know what would happen if we attempted that!!!!) We all very well know about yo-yo dieting experiences, especially between post- Christmas and post-summer vacation times, or pledging by swearing at every near and dear one’s life not to drink another drop after the head-spinning hangover. Hand on heart- How many succeed in keeping their promise to themselves? So, instead of short-term impulsive goals, try to choose long-term achievable targets. Focus and go for it like a rottweiler after the bone. So far we discussed being true to yourself, knowing your own potential, working diligently, focusing, building confidence, develop a positive mindset. Voila! We’ve grown the ability to manifest all our dreams. This is my Resolution for every year of my remaining life. Be MY best and settle for nothing less. What about you? Happy 2022 to all my fellow bloggers and readers.
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