
We all have heard life being described in terms of contrast like ups and downs or good and bad. This made me wonder if it was possible to stop life swinging like a pendulum and if there was a way to make life consistent. While the movement of time and circumstances is an inevitable reality in life, we control how we react to each event within the movement. It’s through this control of emotions that consistency becomes a probability.
People get more excited in the ‘preparation’ of an occasion or a festival, rather than the event itself, and some deny themselves all enthusiasm by focusing more on the day after. ‘Christmas is only for a day and then back to reality’, or ‘ I was so excited for my birthday celebrations, but it was all over in a blink’, etc. etc. Sounds familiar?
The only way to stabilise your attitude and stop life being a pendulum would be to train your own mindset cleverly. Just imagine two kids on the seesaw. The one on the high side is happy, and so is the child on the lower side. They both take turns going higher and lower, but their enjoyment remains consistent. So what can we learn from the children’s game? When the brain accepts the low ground and the heart still beats regularly in the high air, consider that you’ve learnt to balance your life. One shall always keep in touch with the child within; it’s more often the adulthood that gets us into the notorious mood swings. But ideally, they both need to befriend each other to complete one’s entity.
So, be excited when preparing for Christmas, New Year, Birthdays, Marriages, etc. and let the child within have fun, but let the adult in you hold its finger too so one remains within the constraints of budget, for example (Remember- the high and the low). There is no reason why both parts of your entity can’t hold hands and skip together on the sunny beach of happiness. Allow yourself to be happy by accepting that life needs both, to inhale and exhale to survive. Sing when decorating the Christmas tree, but don’t forget to smile when putting away the baubles too, for life brings the brightness of the sun and coolness of the starry sky each day and each night, worth celebrating.
I decided to write the article a day after Christmas celebrations because everyone would wish others happiness and merriness up to the running of the event, then partying the next day, followed by silence… till the next time…sigh…sigh… But I would like to share my excitement for every day of life as life itself is the greatest occasion, provided the mindset is ready to celebrate. This is uplifting your spirits on the seesaw, but let the heart beat a jingle for those as well who might feel they are stuck on the low grounds. Share your giggle and your smile by reminding them that their turn is due to rise next. Show them the way to the beach with a seesaw. Merry life to all.
** P.S. I delayed the second part of the article, ‘ Whisper of a Poppy in my ears…’ since I am at the high side of the seesaw today but would connect with you tomorrow on the ground level too, but with the upbeat hope. **
“There is no reason why both parts of your entity can’t hold hands and skip together on the sunny beach of happiness.”
This was such an amazing post. We live in a dualistic reality. We just fall in love with one side of the spectrum. That’s nature. Happiness can’t exist without sadness. Pain without pleasure, and goodness without evil. They’re both sides of the same coin.
That’s not to say, we should be ignorant of both, but more appreciative and accepting when they occur. Hope you stay well on that high end of the Seasaw, knowing the lower end is inevitable, too. Much love and peace.
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Thank you for such an insightful comment. Such depth.. Much appreciated. 🙏🙏🎉
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