Is expectation selfish or simply human ?


Based on a chapter of my book, The 3Fs of the Law of Attraction, elucidating the concept of desire.
A baby is born with expectation of food since hunger is the prime need for any living being. So, life begins with the instinct of expectations and desires.
Throughout life, the expectations become a deliberate and manoeuvred desire, which feels more personally motivated and develops multi-faceted. It’s the main difference between a baby’s expectation and an adult’s expectation.
Every human relationship is based on expectations from one another. For example, a mother loves her children, but even in this selfless relationship, there is an inevitable place for expectation. Mother expects respect, for instance, and is a justified desire. Similarly, unless there is a ‘give and take’ deal between spouses, or between friends, or between colleagues, business partners, etc, no relation can flourish.
However, the fair balance of expectation stands on the pivotal point of moral awareness. Of course, a baby’s innocence is the purest form of instinctive morality, without conscious awareness. A grown-up mind, on the other hand, can define moral standards more eloquently and clearly. Individual standards are shaped by personal environment and disposition.
Moral standards either justify one’s expectation from another, or not, as the case may be. For example, a child may expect a birthday gift from his parents – fair enough. However, the same child when grown into adulthood still expects not only a birthday gift but anticipates parents to support him for life. Now, it becomes an immoral expectation because there is no justification for such a desire. Therefore, it’s important to know moral boundaries while defining individual expectations.
Even the relationship between God and human beings is linked through mutual expectation. If a man expects blessings from God throughout life, then, he must also accept the reality that even God has expectations from him. All the moral principles, like, being truthful, being peaceful, being honest, etc. are expectations of God from us. So, expectation in itself is a very normal and legitimate human trait and is based on spiritual law. It’s an individual character that makes it selfish or a congenial mutual bond.
Summarily, to expect or to desire is absolutely justified, provided one fits it within the discipline of moral necessity and practice of reciprocal exchange. Hence, to expect from one another is normal and healthy.

17 thoughts on “Is expectation selfish or simply human ?”

  1. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on expectations. You’ve made a great point about how expectations start from basic needs and grow into more complex desires as we mature. It’s true that our relationships—whether with family, friends, or God—are shaped by these expectations. Balancing them with moral awareness is key to keeping relationships healthy and fair. Expectations are normal and necessary, but they work best when we understand and respect the moral boundaries involved.

    Like

    Reply

    1. Thank you for your motivating feedback, and I shall endeavour to serve your expectation in future too. I too love your posts- I loved so many diverse symbolic meanings of a bird knocking at the glass window is just wonderful. Keep up your great writing. 🙏🙏👍👍❤❤

      Liked by 2 people

      Reply

Leave a comment